I’d be lying if I said there wasn’t any cons to being a young mum, even if I wasn’t young there’s things that every mother would tell you about (when do we sleep?) that couldn’t be considered a advantage. But let’s not get anything twisted, no matter how many cons there could be nothing would ever make me want to not be a mother❤️

Let’s start with the pros:

• I get to watch someone grow from a tiny little bean all the way into a full grown man, someone who I can tell you I carried for 9 months, and have loved more and more each day since the beginning. Watching Elijah grow is amazing, from his first smile, and his first step to his first day at school I get to be there each step of the way and that is the most special thing you could ever give someone.
• When I was pregnant people moved out their seat on the bus to let me sit down😉
• When I’m 34 Elijah will be 18, I’m still young enough then to go out and enjoy myself without having to worry about my son. Also hopefully if Elijah thinks I’m cool enough I’ll be able to go out with him😂.
• It’s a reason for me to want to do better, I’m more motivated to get further in my future because I’m not doing it for just me I’m doing it for Elijah. I want to be able to give him whatever he needs and have the best life for us, this means working extra hard at college so I can become the engineer I want to be❗️
• Getting to hear a little mini me call me mummy is probably one of the most special heart warming feelings you’ll ever get to experience❤️
• Since I’m young I feel like I will be able to relate to Elijah when he’s older, things like social media, friendships, schools, as there’s a closer age gap between us. I’ll be able to give him the advise my mum couldn’t always give to me because she didn’t grow up with the same things as me (although my mum does give amazing advice that I will share with Elijah too)
• I’ve made new friendships with other young mums and our children will grow old together❤️

There’s so many more pros I could write pages and pages❗️

Cons:

• Getting no sleep is probably the most draining thing about being a mother, I don’t remember the last time that I slept through the night without waking up, or the last time I slept for more than 6 hours😭
• Most cons are the same for all mothers, however one that only young mums would understand is the judgement from everyone, I didn’t receive many ‘congratulations’ instead when I told people I was pregnant they’d be like ‘really’ or another comment similar. Since I was pregnant I have been getting funny looks of members of the public or even some peers which is sad, people have less belief in a young mum as there’s a high stereotype over it yet most young mums I know are the best mothers ever and have completely changed their life around to support their child❤️ we’re all in this together girls❤️
• I don’t get much time to myself, I think it’s really important to still have a social life while being a mum because even though your life now revolves around your baby, you need to have fun too girl❤️ this can sometimes be hard especially if you don’t have the support there but don’t forget about yourself❗️
• Nothing is safe at ground level, unfortunately sometimes I forget this and will leave something like my makeup box on the floor and if Elijah sees he’s straight there🤣 most of my eyeshadow pallets have finger marks all over and look as if I have been trying to mix colours, my lip sticks are nonexistent and have been all over my carpet🤣

But you learn to over come everything and find a way round it, I mean I depend on coffee most days (didn’t drink it until I became a mum)😂

It’s all worth it, I wouldn’t change Elijah for the world❤️